When Words are not Enough

About 8 years ago,a friend told me that as between friends, the words please and thank you are not necessary. He had helped me out with something for which I was deeply greatful and while saying thank you, that was his reply. In my mind, I was like ‘hian, whoever thinks like this?’ A few years later, I understood what he meant. A friend of mine needed help with her child. Someone to watch over the child for some hours while she attended to some important stuff. She called to share her need. I said ‘bring her over’. Over the years, we’ve inconvenienced each other like that. Yes, when it comes to friendships, how much of a friend you are is seen in the actions that follow the words declaring your love and loyalty.






I’m teaching the boys how to say a proper apology. Why? Because I have realised that most apologies these days do not come from a contrite heart. People say sorry just to appease the offended party. So, the boys are learning that an ‘I am sorry’ is way better than a flippant ‘sorry’. For to me, when it comes to making apologies, how sorry you are is seen in your actions not just your words.






Some years ago, I went through a period of great pain and hurt from a great loss. Some of the most hurtful words I heard came from well meaning people. This taught me that words offered to a hurting person can cause more pain than do good. So, when I come across grieving people now, I say less. I give a hug where I can. Hold a hand or just sit and listen and say a prayer.






My husband and I are raising 3 children. I’m learning that more than the words we speak, our actions carry more weight. The children are watching us keenly so we’re careful to live a do as I do lifestyle with them…





The words actions speak louder than words are far weightier than we think. They tell us the weight of our words are measured by our actions. So, if you do mean it- whatever it is, then act it. Do have a beautiful week.
Zara
#Wordsarenotenough

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